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You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it. You may have to crawl through a labyrinth more than once to be free of it. You may have to face the same nightmare over and over again to no longer fear it.
I’m sorry, baby. This part of life is hard. But you are tougher than all that. There is more in you than all the battles, labyrinths and nightmares of the world.
S.C Lourie, the things I want to tell my daughters.
In all our loss, surely we gain something. Surely. In my darkest moments, I want to say otherwise. I want to say that it is all awful and horrible and should not be allowed to happen. The the earth and universe is cruel and unjust to make loss such a huge part of life. But that innate rebellion doesn’t last for long because I can’t help but see the silver lines in all the dark grey stormy clouds nowadays. Well maybe not all, but where there is grey, I find silver soon enough. I can’t help but feel there is nourishment somewhere deep in all the waste. And that if i just keep shifting it back into the soil of my life, it becomes food, to so many beautiful things. Losing has changed my vision for good. And so yes, in fear of being unfaithful to the insurmountable brokenness we are left with in loss, I still have to be honest and say there has been gain too. One thing I cannot deny is that my unborn babies have given me a sense of voice and self I didn’t own or even have a glimpse of before them. I hear and feel my instincts so clearly nowadays. I can’t be in conversations I don’t believe in. I can’t give to relationships that died long ago anyway. I can’t be with energy that makes me feel like something is wrong. I can’t walk into an opportunity that has just seemingly magically fallen out of the sky. There is a form to myself that I couldn’t access before and I have lived in it since I lost. Not willingly at the beginning because the price paid for it felt too high but it has definitely added a sense of richness and substance to my every day that might have been there before, but for the life of me I couldn’t see. So yes, and sometimes, strangely with a softened temperament leaning toward regret, I have gained in loss. But would I give it up to not go through the loss at all? Well, that’s a whole other story.
–S.C Lourie, the good in grief, perhaps
London, August 2017
The cost of rebirth.
“I’m fourteen and all my friends are crazy about being grown ups right now. They’re drinking alcohol. They’re smoking cigarettes. They’re trying to act vulgar. They’ll do anything to separate from their parents and prove that they’re independent. Personally, I’d like to be a child just a little bit longer. I love spending time with my parents. I’m not in a rush to get away. I’d like these times to last as long as possible.”
(St. Petersburg, Russia)
I hope my girls say the same at that age xx
Choosing human over illusion.
For all that we go through, we deserve good. We deserve good. So go into your day today thoughtful of what you deserve, intent on giving yourself a few lovely moments today. They are waiting for you. But you’ll find them, only if you go out boldly and with the intention to uncover them. Giving yourself permission to lighten the load and skip a little while. Remember the balance, if you go through a difficult time, go make sure you have a good time some time after that. Put back in you laughter for all the tears you cry. It’s how we don’t get swallowed up in the dark. It’s when we remember we are both and we need just as much of both to feel our true selves. Sometimes we have to go source out the good we deserve. We have to slow down. We have to treat ourselves. We have to set up nice experiences to happen. But it’s not a case of having to, it’s about finding the fire in wanting to and just letting it be. Listen to the love inside today, darling. Some of your little loves and they will guide the way.
S.C Lourie, Butterflies and Pebbles on Instagram
No labels today.
Lovable.
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